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About The Kissing LessonsRelationships are the new ashram. As Shakespeare wrote in A Midsummer Night's Dream, "The course of true love never did run smooth." This anthology of vignettes about the course of love seeks to bring to the surface the moments and scenes, memories and feelings experienced by the many faces of love. The Kissing Lessons gives us something to talk about -- a little mystery to figure out. Let's talk about love: loving, being loved, and being love. The Kissings Lessons is the work of Allison Schultz, artist, writer and curator of creative leadership. You can find more of her work at www.lovelifeartwork.com.
That’s what she said…
Musings + Pillow Talk
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Lessons, in text + image
One of my most favorite lovey-lyrics is from “When You Come Back Down” by Nickelcreek:
I’ll be the other hand that always holds the line
Connectin’ in between your sweet heart and mine
I’m strung out on that wire
And I’ll be on the other end, To hear you when you call
… From the moment I first listened, the image of climbing came to mind. Perhaps that’s too literal of an interpretation of the ‘line’ in the song, but I think it’s apt.
The tune was strumming in my mind this past Saturday as I learned the ways of the multi-pitch on one of Boulder’s classic routes. I had come off of a week rich in lessons varying on a theme of communication – in all relationships. I had made a commitment a few weeks ago to communicate clearly, and there was no greater moment than the present rock face I faced, while tied to my partner.
On the wall clear, precise communication is a necessity. There is no time for story, no time for the vernacular bamboozlement that happens when your shit comes out sideways. As I pondered this, reflected on the past week, and reeled through the scenes of my life where this technique was a mildly epic fail of etched patterns brought out in relationship, I noticed the etchings on the rock in front of me, where the rope I kept feeding to the partner beyond my horizon line rested against the sun soaked granite.
The pattern in the stone section was almost like a grid, yet it radiated outward from an elongated ‘X’ which was prominent. I smiled as I recognized the Rune for partnership, and what that signified.
I knew I was right where I needed to be.
“You know what that pain in your chest is? It’s your heart breaking when you’re not giving it what it knows it wants.” he pointed out.
She sat with that clear truth all day, and reeled through the memories of moments when her head rattled through practical matters and ramifications while her radiant heart-body had other agendas.
It was a bad habit of hers – not giving herself permission to have what she wanted when she wanted it and letting herself be filled with that bounty, instead being full of fears and self-imposed limitations – and a pattern that became uber-apparent as scene after scene, slices of life, floated into her mindframe and on into the low hum of twilight.
This happened with more than just what she desired to consume with a fork; it was ingrained in her life-diet as a whole that was deficient in 100% pure happiness. Not only was this card carrying vegan denying her body the meat and eggs that it craved, but in crystal clear illumination, the reel of her theater-mind slowed to notable moments of pure desire for other objects of the flesh. “Well, shit,” she thought to herself. “I could’ve had sex for breakfast.”
“When I married my ex, I thought it was normal – what we had, how this relationship thing worked – and that my expectations were too high.” Her face turned into a smile; she was beaming. ”But then, I met my now-husband and realized my expectations were not too high at all.”
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From p. 9 of Guy Davenport’s 7 Greeks:
“Neither Sappho nor Botticelli separated beauty from the intelligence, of which it is the specious film. Bright eyes, bright mind; balanced walk, balanced nature. The perfect unity of strength and grace in horse, ship, and javelineer underlies her sense of the beautiful, and immediately she demands the enveloping appetence that identifies and completes the beautiful, the untranslatable imeros, that yearning that was at once, love, sexual longing, adoration, and fascination. Never has a poet been as clear about predilections and attractions. A man should have something of a tree, of horse, of god about him; a woman should have the elegance of a rose and the accomplished graces. They must be of crystal clarity.”
“You’re pretty badass,” he said to her. “Are you single? Do you like boys?”
At the renegade kitchen feast on the eve of Beltane, spring’s most decadent pagan fertility rite, a crew of near strangers sat together to share in bacon wrapped succulence on a variation of a dinner theme of spicy. The pre-first course topics of discussion opened up to the body and art, and soon, in a round of the long table, each recounted tales of their ink, or lack thereof.
“… I have one around my arm,” the tall adonis next to her said, “and another on my back.”
“What are they of?” she asked.
“The one on my arm is often mistaken for barbed wire,” he said in between sips of soup. “but the one on my back is deeper than that.”
She caught his eye with a curiosity that wasn’t sated, and he told her about the Meso-American myth that the glyph stood for. “… loosely translated, it means Galactic Butterfly,” he said.
She laughed in surprise and noted her approval of his choice. The desire to cast her gaze on this symbol embedded in his flesh overrode her hunger for the butterleaf lettuce salad with fresh ranch dressing and warm carrot soup in front of her. “Do we get to see it?” she asked.
“Maybe later,” he smiled.
“Keep the wine flowing,” she said.
“You look familiar,” she said to the dark haired boy next to her. “Do you climb?”
“Yes,” he said, “I set at the bouldering gym.”
“Oh, yeah!” she realized that’s where she’d seen him. “I didn’t recognize you with your shirt on.”
OH: “I need someone more forward thinking than 6″ in front of their pubic bone.”